Two Things Can Be True
You cannot create time, but you can create space in your life to practice intentional self-care.
Taking care of yourself is a requirement for mental health.
Ways To Be Kind To Yourself
{You are not what you experienced.}
You are who you create yourself to be.
Things can impact you, but your experiences don't define who you are.
Do not reduce your whole life to your experiences. Your life experiences contribute to who you are, but they do not define who you are.
You are defined by the choices you make today. If you find that your experiences define you, do the work with a therapist to create a life defined by you.
Ways To Deal With People Who Are Emotionally Draining
Becoming aware created the option for me to own my power.
Repeat This:
I am powerful.
I am brave.
I am aware.
You Are Not Helping People By Doing This
{Age is not an indicator of maturity.}
Emotional immaturity is typically an indicator that your parents experienced trauma. Unhealed trauma that impacts future generations is generational trauma. Some people may indeed be more emotionally mature than their parents. When parents are emotionally immature, they may lack insight into their behavior and how they are impacting the relationship dynamic.
YOU BECOME AN ADULT WHEN…
{It's okay to set boundaries with your family.}
People will not figure out what your boundaries are without you telling them. Tell them precisely what you want and need. At first, you might feel mean, worry that you won’t say the right thing or experience guilt. But, the more that you believe that you are entitled to have healthy boundaries, the easier it will become to set boundaries. What boundaries have you set with your family?
YOU CAN BE “TODAY YEAR’S OLD” and learn:
In healthy relationships, positive changes are well received. In unhealthy relationships, change is a threat to the dysfunction that has been allowed.
Find the courage to be well despite the shifts that may happen.
You Cannot Make or Convince People Into Doing This
{You are not for everyone. And everyone is not for you.}
Accepting that you are not for everyone and everyone is not for you makes life easier. Fighting against *what is* makes life more challenging. Acceptance is a process.